Overcoming Mental Blocks And Self Sabotage
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I'm actually really nervous to film this weekly reminder
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um...
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where do I start?
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So I guess I usually do weekly reminders on topics that I feel confident about, things that I'm already doing myself.
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today I wanted to talk about something I'm struggling with, which is overcoming mental blocks and getting around self-sabotage.
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So at the start of this year, I committed to running a marathon and the start was really bright. I was enjoying running. I was being consistent. I was making progress every single day towards my goal.
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then something happened two months ago, and if you're a teammate and have access to camera roll, you would have seen that I started really struggling with my training routines for the last two months.
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It kind of started when daylight savings changed. I feel like I took a little bit to adjust to that and not being able to run after 5:30 p.m. was kind of annoying because I liked running in the evening
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and it was limiting because then I suddenly had less time in the day to train.
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I kind of got over that. But then there was a new problem, which was the weather, and it was cold all the time and it was raining and I didn't want to go for a run in the rain.
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I hate the rain. So I would make excuses up about why I couldn't go for my run that day. And that turned into a week, which turned into like almost a month.
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Some of the little things popped up along the way. Like, I know I got sick for a period of time and then I was housesitting for my mum.
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So back and forth between houses and just all the things like we moved house and I was like, Oh my God, my schedule's too hectic. I can't run at the moment. So there were plenty of excuses going around and usually I'm pretty good at picking up on when I'm doing that, but I genuinely believed myself and I was like, No, these are valid excuses.
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Of course I can't run, but it's been like two months now and my schedule, my training schedule has really fallen off.
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So I started questioning what's going on here. Like, it's obviously something within me that's going on and I kind of realized that I'm getting to the point in my training where I haven't actually run this far before.
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So my next run that I'm scheduled to do is a 16 kilometer run. The most I've ever run is 12 kilometers.
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so I think psychologically and maybe subconsciously I'm freaking out a bit. And there's part of me that doesn't want to overcome this next step because I'm scared of “what if I
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this is something that happens when you set a challenging goal and in some ways you should set goals that really push you to get to the point where you're like, “Can I do it”?
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I know I'll get through this, but I really do have to push myself right now. And I thought the biggest challenge training for a marathon was going to be physical, but it's actually been mental.
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So since I'm struggling, I want to share it with you guys. And I wanted to talk through what my plan is moving forward because I don't want to stay stuck like this. I don't want to keep blaming the weather on my schedule. I want to keep training for this marathon and I want to run 42 kilometers at the end of the year.
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And to do that, I need to take my training seriously, which I haven't been doing lately.
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so if you're listening to this and you have some goals that you set out in January, this year and you're working towards them, you had that momentum, but you're starting to lose that energy.
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This is the perfect weekly reminder for you. Let's go over what we can do to get re-energized.
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So first up is recognizing the role that you're playing in the problem. So at first I thought the problem was outside of myself. I now realize that it's actually within me. It's my limiting beliefs that are the problem. And if I can take back control over that, I can start training again.
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Now, for you guys, depending on what your goal is, that might not be within you.
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It might be someone's blocking you. You might be prevented in a different way. But I would love to hear in the comments. Please share what you're working towards.
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and if you're stuck on something, let us know in the comments because someone else might have a way that you can overcome that blockage so you can keep working towards your goals.
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A lot of the time we are actually the problem and the thing that's holding us back. You might have heard the quote like “your biggest competitor is always yourself”. So that is so true, especially in my situation right now.
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So now that I realize that I'm the problem, I can actually start making some meaningful progress all over again.
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Okay, Next thing we need to do is reprioritize our goal. And for me, this means actually shifting a lot in my calendar to make sure that I have time every single day or week to train for this marathon.
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This will look differently for you depending on your goal,
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but what I basically want you to do is protect your time at all costs and make sure that your time for this goal in particular is prioritized.
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And no one no one will get in the way of that, not even you.
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And the last thing you need to do is take action.
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So this means looking at our large goal and breaking it down into smaller goals
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so we can celebrate wins on a daily or weekly basis.
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it's important to pat ourselves on the back. But do remember that the job's not done until we achieve that big goal.
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this is a work in progress for me, and it's scary to share something like this because I like sharing the wins and it's hard to share the parts that I'm kind of struggling in at the moment, but I'm hoping this kind of motivates me to get started again. So if you're struggling with a goal that you're working towards or you haven't started at all
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join in with me, let's work on this together.
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Put it in the comments and let's hold each other accountable.
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that's it for this week. I hope this inspired you to get moving towards your goals again. I'll speak to you guys soon.
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Bye.
Team, I want you to be honest with me…
Without looking at something you wrote down 6 months ago, do you know off the top of your head, your top goal that you are working towards for 2023?
If you have no idea, go and find your journal where you wrote down your goals so you can remind yourself what you are working towards, then keep reading!
And if you do know your major 2023 goal, but you’ve hit a wall, then you should especially keep reading.
At the start of this year I committed to running a marathon.
But lately, I have been experiencing some resistance.
My motivation for running has diminished.
First I blamed the weather - “I like running in the heat” I said
Then I blamed my schedule - “I don’t have the time right now” I said
Then I blamed my body - “I got sick last week, so I’m just recovering” I said
But now I realise that I’m just scared.
I’m about to do something that I have never done before.
The furthest I’ve run before has been 12km…
My next training session requires me to run 16km…
The one after that 18km
and in a few weeks time I need to run half a marathon (21km).
And that only gets me to half of my goal.
I'm guessing you can see why I’m freaking out.
It’s challenging.
But the interesting part is, the mental aspect is challenging me more than the physical. (for now anyway).
So how do we overcome these blocks when they arise and try to sabotage us from reaching our goals?
First we recognise the role we are playing in the problem itself. In my case, it wasn't the weather or my schedule… it was my own limiting beliefs.
If I continue to blame the weather all winter, I won't be ready to run a marathon this year. SO I need to change my beliefs and take back control of the situation.
Next, we RE-Prioritise the goal.
Maybe you have been working towards this for months or years, and if that's the case you might have slacked off a bit. Create space in your day to make meaningful progress towards what you desire (aka your end goal). Stick to your smaller goals and stop making excuses!
The last thing you need to do is take action.
Like I said above - work towards your smaller goals on a daily basis so that you can achieve your larger goal in the future. Pat yourself on the back and celebrate when you hit milestones along the way, but remember the job isn't over until you hit your big goal!
This is what I’m putting into practice in my life right now, so let's see if I can stick to it!
How are you tracking on the road towards your goals that you set for yourself at the start of this year? If you are struggling, I hope this reminder helps get you un-stuck!!