Question: What do you consider the most important part of a relationship?
Answer: Communication is everything! To be able to communicate calmly, clearly and respectfully is a huge part of why our relationship is as healthy as it is.
To avoid a full blown argument, addressing feelings as they arise instead of letting them simmer for too long is best. We actually do this through check-ins with each other every 2 weeks. Doing this allows both of us a safe and open space to communicate any feelings that may have been sitting uncomfortably under the surface. All of the questions we ask are the following:
What does your work week look like in the next two weeks?
Was there a moment where I had hurt you in the last two weeks that you want to talk about?
Do you want to go on an adventure?
Was there something I did that you appreciate?
Do you want to see me more or less in the next two weeks?
Do you want to be more or less intimate?
Question: What are love languages and how do I find out what my love language is?
Answer: The five love languages are five different ways all of us like to express and receive love.
The 5 different love languages are:
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch
If you don't know what your love language is click here to take a quiz that will let you know what it is and how you best like to receive love.
We have noticed that knowing how each other like to receive love gives us a better understanding of what we both need from the other person. For example; if we are feeling more distant than usual from each other we know that Taz's love language is physical touch and Alessia's love language is words of affirmation, so cuddling and expressing our love for each other is what will connect us again.
Question: What are your favourite activities/ways to reconnect as a couple?
Answer: There are so many different ways that we love to re-connect if we're ever feeling distant from each other. Some of our favourite ways include:
Cuddling
Date nights
Our fortnightly check-in
Staring at each other
Meditating together
Going on walks and to the park together
We find it super important to re-connect after a long day or week when we're feeling drained and or distant from each other both physically and emotionally.